You would be assuming that the parents whose children behave badly actually care that the children are behaving badly. Most of the parents of badly behaved children (and I include toddlers through young adults in that designation) didn't appear to care much. I heard a lot of "Oh, don't do that" or "That's awful, honey" but no real effort made to correct the behavior.shunn6653 wrote:i feel bad for the parents. imagine the embarrassment they must feel
As I mentioned earlier, the child who thoroughly embarrassed me in a restaurant by making remarks about things my doctor hesitates to talk about was not reprimanded at all. His parents laughed with him and his father congratulated him on his wits...even though he horrified the rest of the restaurant with his crass behavior.
I have, however, started changing my approach in the perhaps futile hope that it might make a difference. I ignore badly behaved children unless I have to deal directly with them (playing on the medical equipment, kicking me, and pulling the dog's hair or otherwise distracting the service dog will get them a big and loud reprimand). Instead, when I see parents with well behaved kids, I praise the child...and I say a few brief words to the parents about what well mannered children they have.
Maybe, just maybe, with positive reinforcement it might shame some of those other parents into doing their jobs. Maybe the peer pressure from parents whose children DO behave will change the others' behavior.