I used to be a nursery nurse which my dad thought was a good idea for work, also I'd know what to do when I had my own children. My first job was in the Special Care Baby Unit at a local hospital for 3 years. Saw the high's of happy familes and despair of those who had lost their child or didn't want their baby. Enough said.GrowlingCupcake wrote:I wish I was not challenged on my decision.
Father sort of doesn't care but expects me to pop out children at some point in the distant future. Mother is all "You'll change your mind!" And a whole bunch of people I have met are all "What? Why? BABIES!!!!!!" I also get a lot of the whole "But don't you want a family and unconditional love?" As a child... I am fully aware that not every parent gets unconditional love.
I figure I will just spoil my sister's future kids
For 20 years I looked after young children in a day nursery with serious needs both physically mentally and socially. Their parents where often too young with no idea about parenting skills and didn't know how to offer unconditional love. They expected the unconditional love from their children instread. After 20 years I was burnt out with a bad back. So took an admin job when it was offered to me and I have never missed working with children.
In the beginning I had compassion for the children in my care and their parents. But after working for 20 years while I still have some compassion for the genuine families, I mainly have become a cynic who been there, seen it and heard all the excuses from those who just want to milk the system.
In all that time I never wanted children of my own. Nobody in the family have said to my face when will you have my own children. I enjoyed spoiling other family member;s children and at the end of the day I'm very happy to send them home and shut the front door and return to my peace and quiet.
I just feel you should be able to live your life that way you want to and if children are not for you then so be it. If you wish to adopt then so be it and if you wish to have older children then the Social Services should recognise this.
Think I'll stop here as I could write an essay on this subject. I just think people should respect other feelings and live and let live.