Teens having sex?

[Queenelleo]

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[pugspie101]

Ok this is just a wierd tpic. Anyway im never involved in that stuff. But my friends friend had sex. Reall sad. I think that i souldnt talk bout this. Ignore this.

[Heart]

Ok this is just a wierd tpic. Anyway im never involved in that stuff. But my friends friend had sex. Reall sad. I think that i souldnt talk bout this. Ignore this.

You know, sex shouldn't be a weird topic at all. Yeah, it's a bit of a squeamish activity I suppose, but I think talking about sex at least a few times should be good and healthy, especially if it's to prevent things like unwanted pregnancies and STD transmission. It also helps defuse some urban legends about the whole process.

But well, a more in-depth discussion isn't fit for this thread xD I don't want mods coming down on me lol.

[GrowlingCupcake]

Ok this is just a wierd tpic. Anyway im never involved in that stuff. But my friends friend had sex. Reall sad. I think that i souldnt talk bout this. Ignore this.

You know, sex shouldn't be a weird topic at all. Yeah, it's a bit of a squeamish activity I suppose, but I think talking about sex at least a few times should be good and healthy, especially if it's to prevent things like unwanted pregnancies and STD transmission. It also helps defuse some urban legends about the whole process.

But well, a more in-depth discussion isn't fit for this thread xD I don't want mods coming down on me lol.

How is it squeamish? *curious*

But yeah, sex isn't something that should be weird. But like many things that are entirely normal (peeing, farting, pooping, etc.) we consider it weird and topics we shouldn't really discuss. This is something important, though, for the reasons you mentioned. The same way we should tell people how to wipe their butt properly and wash their hands or that constipation is bad, etc.

xD

[MothballMilkshake]

Why do people only seem to think virginity is a big deal for a female?

[MissMurderPaws]

Ok this is just a wierd tpic. Anyway im never involved in that stuff. But my friends friend had sex. Reall sad. I think that i souldnt talk bout this. Ignore this.

I've had sex. I don't think it's really sad, in my opinion, it's a wonderful experience. Heck, my boyfriend and I plan things where we can involve multiple parties other than our own (So long as it's safe) all for sexual experimentation in a safe, and comfortable environment (I protect him, he protects me, we test boundaries) If you think you shouldn't talk about it though, please don't :C I don't want you t feel uncomfortable about your opinions.

And MotheballMIlkshakes, it dates back to the religion takeover thing, I think, and the thought that anybody is impure if the copulate before marriage, but it devolved over the years so that men can do it, women can't.

[MothballMilkshake]

Oh I know that Shadowfang! I ask mostly so people will question their own beliefs about it, cause most people don't even realise they think unequally about it - I've seen some in this thread as well.

[MothballMilkshake]

Relevant thing my friend just linked me out of nowhere!

http://www.policymic.com/articles/88029 ... -about-sex

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[MightyOak]

And MotheballMIlkshakes, it dates back to the religion takeover thing, I think, and the thought that anybody is impure if the copulate before marriage, but it devolved over the years so that men can do it, women can't.

It's a lot more than that. A woman must remain a virgin until marriage so that a man can be assured that any child she bares will be his. In the western world inheritance passed through the male line, but before paternity tests there was no way to be sure that a child born would be his. A bastard child can't inherit, so it doesn't matter that man produces them before or after his marriage. A woman, however, can pass off her child as legitimate even if it isn't.

Religion only enters the equation later. But the though process that a girl must remain a virgin has held over. Things are very different in our day and age. Anyone can inherit from anyone. Children can come from anywhere; sperm banks, adoption, spouse's previous marriage, or even outside of marriage. Due to the broadening of social structures our social behavior has changed. This can be frightening to some which is when modern restrictive religious beliefs come in to play.

And to remain on the topic of adolescent intercourse; a hundred years ago and more, when getting married often happened in one's teen years, the point was moot. Our social objection does not so much stem from an aversion of teenagers having sex, but rather from the old belief that sex should be reserved for marriage, where children produced will be wanted and cared for (presumably). The age of marriage is often in one's thirties, now, sometimes more. Everyone I know who's gotten married waited until after university and into their career. Our bodies aren't designed to wait thirty years for sex. This is where the problem comes in. We no longer married so young, but society still often expects people to wait for marriage. Which is no longer practical, in our day and age.

These are just my personal opinions and observations.

[MissMurderPaws]

And MotheballMIlkshakes, it dates back to the religion takeover thing, I think, and the thought that anybody is impure if the copulate before marriage, but it devolved over the years so that men can do it, women can't.

It's a lot more than that. A woman must remain a virgin until marriage so that a man can be assured that any child she bares will be his. In the western world inheritance passed through the male line, but before paternity tests there was no way to be sure that a child born would be his. A bastard child can't inherit, so it doesn't matter that man produces them before or after his marriage. A woman, however, can pass off her child as legitimate even if it isn't.

Religion only enters the equation later. But the though process that a girl must remain a virgin has held over. Things are very different in our day and age. Anyone can inherit from anyone. Children can come from anywhere; sperm banks, adoption, spouse's previous marriage, or even outside of marriage. Due to the broadening of social structures our social behavior has changed. This can be frightening to some which is when modern restrictive religious beliefs come in to play.

And to remain on the topic of adolescent intercourse; a hundred years ago and more, when getting married often happened in one's teen years, the point was moot. Our social objection does not so much stem from an aversion of teenagers having sex, but rather from the old belief that sex should be reserved for marriage, where children produced will be wanted and cared for (presumably). The age of marriage is often in one's thirties, now, sometimes more. Everyone I know who's gotten married waited until after university and into their career. Our bodies aren't designed to wait thirty years for sex. This is where the problem comes in. We no longer married so young, but society still often expects people to wait for marriage. Which is no longer practical, in our day and age.

These are just my personal opinions and observations.

Thanks I was in a rush, but wanted to respond, and couldn't take the time to type out all this