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Re: Childfree?

Postby DreamedReality » August 19th, 2011, 1:56:17 pm

I don't get much pressure for my childfree lifestyle. Sometimes a member of the extended family will ask me when I'm going to have a baby but its pretty easy to shake them off. I asked my mom about why she didn't harass me about it more and she said for three reasons: (1) She wasn't in a hurry to have grandbabies. (Altho my sis has provided her with one earlier this year.) (2) She suspected I wasn't going to give her grandchildren anyway. I had never played house/ dress up as a kid. I didn't carry around baby dolls. As I grew older I never dreamed of getting married or having babies. (3) It wasn't any of her business if my SO decided to have kids or not.

I stay childfree not because I hate kids. If there is any anger or dislike involved it is usually directed at the parents of the unruely child. I simply adore my nephew. The reasons I'm childfree are:

-- I am terrified of accidentally harming an infant. I don't hold infants. I have trouble even touching them.
-- I am selfish. I'd rather be playing and buy toys for myself and my SO than buying diapers, school books, and healthcare for a child.
-- I don't like feeling clung on. I need my 'me' time or I fall into depression.
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Re: Childfree?

Postby Blackwidow » August 19th, 2011, 5:56:07 pm

I, am never ever going to have kids. They disgust me. I made the decision a while ago to not have them. I don't like the screaming, the schreeching, the drooling and they crying. I hate it all. I don't want to take the responsibility of being a parent, and I never will. I don't want to have to worry about the process, then the pain of having the child. Then worring about it's health and statistics. I don't want to have a bratty snot nose kid who disobeys you all the time and talks back to you. I don't care if it doesn't turn out like that, I still wouldn't want the child. I don't want to deal with bullies or packing lunches or enrolling them in schools, or paying for their first car, and making sure they get good grades. I also can't stand babies. I can't look at them, I can't watch them eat, I can't watch them do anything. I don't like them. I am totally child free. I am more of a dog person, meaning I would rather raise dogs.
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Re: Childfree?

Postby nightclaw » August 25th, 2011, 11:19:37 am

I don't think I would ever have any biological children. For one, my genes suck. I have a very long history of diabetes, bad eyesight, and tons of other crappy things in my DNA on both sides.

But, if I ever wanted to have kids, which I think is very unlikely, I would adopt. I really wouldn't want to go through 18+ hours of labor to have a kid that pisses me off as much as I piss off my parents.
And, I'm only 16 now. So I'm pretty sure I'm not going to have kids anytime soon. Not for about twenty years. Or maybe even fourty. Yeah.

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Re: Childfree?

Postby Destrauxe » August 28th, 2011, 3:22:35 pm

I don't want children, ever. I have expressed this to my family before and mostly gotten 'Oh yes you are you have to have children.' or 'Why would you want to live alone all your life?' Guess what? I do not have to have children the desicion is mine and I don't want them. I can't handle babies at all. They throw up, slober, and you have to change their diaper. I feel like I am going to vomit every time I am near a baby who is slobering. I cannot eat near them because they get food all over themselves and then spit it up and the mom or dad will actually eat it sometimes. It is sickening to me.

I also don't want to have to deal with the responsability of having a child. And the career path I have decided to follow will have a scheduel that has me working alot, working at odd hours, and getting emergencie calls in the middle of the night. Having a child would make that very hard. I don't want one, nor do I want several. Period.
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Re: Childfree?

Postby cloudstar » July 15th, 2021, 8:28:13 pm

cloudstar wrote:I think that I am going to have about 2 or three kids. But I will NOT have children intill I am married. Becuase I belive that I am WAY too young to have children. But that is how I feel now I may have no children, it depends on what me and my husband think.



I think that it's really funny, I wrote this post ten years ago when I was 11 years old :lol: I am now 21 and married. And my husband and I have decided one or two children, I'm not really big on kids and the idea of pregnancy and childbirth scares me.

But I definitely see the appeal in children, we also have talked about fostering children as well.
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Re: Childfree?

Postby Challenger007 » July 21st, 2021, 4:17:32 am

cloudstar wrote:
cloudstar wrote:I think that I am going to have about 2 or three kids. But I will NOT have children intill I am married. Becuase I belive that I am WAY too young to have children. But that is how I feel now I may have no children, it depends on what me and my husband think.



I think that it's really funny, I wrote this post ten years ago when I was 11 years old :lol: I am now 21 and married. And my husband and I have decided one or two children, I'm not really big on kids and the idea of pregnancy and childbirth scares me.

But I definitely see the appeal in children, we also have talked about fostering children as well.



I think that when you get pregnant, all instincts are to wake up. After all, before becoming a mother, no one knows how it is. Our parents also did not know how to be parents, how to deal with us, how to develop us.
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