MagiStream

Hey all, I'm looking to start up a discussion about a somewhat strange situation that I'm in. In particular, I'm hoping to find a few others that have been in similar situations in order to discuss how it was handled.

(Note: all persons involved in this are 18+)

I'll start at the beginning. (This might be a long one, buckle up kiddos.)

My story begins back in July of this year, when we hired a new employee at my current job. He moved here from another state for a position which didn't work out before ending up at my location. I didn't care for him at first, I thought he was uptight and snobbish, but have since learned that he was just shy. We developed a great working relationship rather quickly. We learned each other in a way that made us one of the most quick and efficient sets of partners there, resulting in us working together quite a lot.

Now, I have never been a very social person due to the way I was raised, and I don't talk about myself much, but with him I have been able to open up quite a lot, and we have developed a shared sense of humor that others sometimes find a bit strange, but it works for us.

We've grown into really close friends, but during the past several weeks, things have started to feel a bit different between us. I have developed feelings for him. We've been able to meet up outside of work several times, mostly with other co-workers. Lately though we've been alone together. I house/dog-sit for an older neighbor of mine, and on nights when I'm house-sitting and he happens to be un-obligated, he comes over so that neither of us are lonely. This last week had one of those nights. We ended up playing Truth or Dare. I'm not going to go into any details on that, but I will say nothing too serious happened, although it got rather interesting.

Since then almost any interaction between us has had an underlying tension to it. Not necessarily uncomfortable, but it's definitely there. Enough so that at least two other co-workers have noticed that something might be up.

I'm almost 100% certain he also has feeling for me (without asking). I have recently found out that as soon as his lease on his apartment is up that he will be moving back to where he came from to pursue another career, so I am very unsure if I want to try and have any sort of relationship or not. Oh, and another thing. (probably the biggest thing, and probably should have brought this up first.) He has a girlfriend. He's not happy in the relationship but he hasn't left her due to her being very dependent (It's kind of ridiculous honestly) and having some problems resulting in her spending time in mental facilities. (Such as split personality, bi-polar, as well as feeling sensations that aren't actually there. And that she is from the same state/town that he is and will be going back when he does. (It has also been discovered that she is most likely cheating on him.)

That's not even close to all that is going on with this situation, but I'm having a hard time with writing all of this. Basically there is a big, knotted up, tangled rope of a situation that I am completely new to and have no idea how to deal with. I don't know what I should do, if anything at all. I feel lost. I've only had one relationship before and it was far from serious. It lasted a few months I think.

Has anyone had a situation at all similar to this? I'm looking for any stories or advice you may have. Also feel free to ask me anything, because I feel like I may have muddled up the situation with my chaotic writing.


If you have any sort of advice at all, I'mm taking notes!!

Thank you Raptora, that was actually really encouraging. I will try to have a sit down with him and work out exactly what we both want from each other as soon as I have an opportunity.Thank you so much for your answer. I was thinking somewhat along those lines, but it really helped to hear from another person.