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Trigger Warning: Sexual harassment/assault

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This thread is about all topics pertaining to sexual assault, sexual harassment, rape, it's affects on you or loved ones, how the media portrays it, how society sees it, and basically everything that you can think of relating to the topic. Feel free to not answer some of the questions, or not even use the form at all. Just state your opinions or experiences.


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[b]What are your thoughts on sex crimes themselves?[/b]

[b]Do you believe people 'ask for it' when they dress provocatively?[/b]

[b]What is consent to you?[/b]

[b]Have you ever experienced sex crimes?[/b]

[b]How do you think society's portrayal of sex crimes hinders or helps us?[/b]

[b]Do you think the media plays a role in all of this?[/b]

[b]Do you believe men can be a victim of sex crimes too?[/b]

[b]Have sex crimes affected you or loved ones?[/b]

[b]Do they leave harmful and lasting affects?[/b]

[b]Do you think there's a way to stop sex crimes?[/b]

[b]Any other thoughts?[/b]
Below are a few help sites, linked to us by a fellow Magi. If you want/need information, if you know a friend, or another loved one who may need this, feel free to use these online support guides. :)
PeachyImperfect wrote:general help sites:

https://www.rainn.org/
http://www.safehorizon.org/
http://www.newhopeforwomen.org/
http://somaticstrength.wordpress.com/ (better for religious people, I suppose)
http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/qrt/sur ... l-assault/
http://www.aardvarc.org/
http://www.pandys.org/
http://www.womenslaw.org/index.php (good if you're expecting to press charges)
http://www.womenscentertc.org/rape-cris ... -services/
http://www.ncadv.org/
http://www.aftersilence.org/index.php

male survivor help:

http://www.malesurvivor.org/
http://www.violenceunsilenced.com/
https://1in6.org/
http://www.soulspeakout.org/

self-care masterposts and safe spaces (because funnily enough, I take care of myself despite everyone here insisting I don't! also good for mentally ill people):

http://campus-survivors.org/post/102894 ... aster-post
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/shy ... ing-stress
http://selfcare101.tumblr.com/post/7322 ... nses#notes
http://resourcesforacesurvivors.tumblr. ... e-a-little
http://safespacenetwork.tumblr.com/post ... umblr-list
http://chronic-illness-support.tumblr.c ... -resources
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Re: Rape

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What are your thoughts on rape itself Well... it's bad.

Do you believe people 'ask for it' when they dress provocatively No. Perhaps their choice of clothing may be a sign that they're looking for sex, however sex and rape are two different things, and just because they dress in that manner does not mean they want to get raped.

What is consent to you Consent is a mutual agreement.

Do you believe men can be raped too Of course. Biologically speaking, it's possible for women to rape men, it's just not as often(Or at least, not as well publicized).

Do you think there's a way to stop rape? No. There will always be people out there with evil intentions. You can discourage it and hopefully stop a majority of it, but there is no way to stop rape from happening.

Any other thoughts? Hmm.. not that I can think of.
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I'm glad there's finally somebody responded, I wondered if I had made on of those threads everybody just kind of... Avoids, though I have to say, I'm not sure myself if it can be stopped entirely, but I'm *slightly* optimistic
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Arospersonalguard wrote:I'm glad there's finally somebody responded, I wondered if I had made on of those threads everybody just kind of... Avoids, though I have to say, I'm not sure myself if it can be stopped entirely, but I'm *slightly* optimistic
Yeah, there will be quite a few users who might avoid this thread. People seem to think that discussing rape is a bad thing, when it's not. The only way to stop something is to be educated about it. The best way to get educated about something is to discuss it. Most probably won't want to discuss it because of their views on it; they're afraid of getting backlash over their opinions.
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SilverWolf wrote:
Arospersonalguard wrote:I'm glad there's finally somebody responded, I wondered if I had made on of those threads everybody just kind of... Avoids, though I have to say, I'm not sure myself if it can be stopped entirely, but I'm *slightly* optimistic
Yeah, there will be quite a few users who might avoid this thread. People seem to think that discussing rape is a bad thing, when it's not. The only way to stop something is to be educated about it. The best way to get educated about something is to discuss it. Most probably won't want to discuss it because of their views on it; they're afraid of getting backlash over their opinions.
This. This is what I have been trying to get across, but I couldn't find the words to do it. I really agree, it seems people hear the 'r' word, and just kinda hit the big ole nope button, and avoid it, when it's like, if people actually were open about the issues, we'd be fine
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Arospersonalguard wrote:
SilverWolf wrote:Yeah, there will be quite a few users who might avoid this thread. People seem to think that discussing rape is a bad thing, when it's not. The only way to stop something is to be educated about it. The best way to get educated about something is to discuss it. Most probably won't want to discuss it because of their views on it; they're afraid of getting backlash over their opinions.
This. This is what I have been trying to get across, but I couldn't find the words to do it. I really agree, it seems people hear the 'r' word, and just kinda hit the big ole nope button, and avoid it, when it's like, if people actually were open about the issues, we'd be fine
Unfortunately, it's how humans work. If we don't understand or fully know something, especially a controversial topic, we avoid speaking about it. For instance, 10-20 years ago, talking about a woman's menstrual cycle was shunned, even if it was discussed between women. Thankfully we're learning and are becoming more open on most subjects, but there are still ones, like rape, that aren't discussed very often. But as time goes on and as more people, such as yourself, prompt people to discuss rape in an adult manner, society will accept that it does happen and will be more willing to discuss it more often.
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What are your thoughts on rape itself
Rape is something very bad.
Do you believe people 'ask for it' when they dress provocatively
No. No matter what people wear, no one asks for it.
What is consent to you
Consent is an agreement between both parties which makes both parties happy.
Do you believe men can be raped too
Of course they can. I think it doesn't happen that often, but men can be raped as well.
Do you think there's a way to stop rape?
No, I do not think it can be stopped sadly. There will always be people who will and can force someone to that, and that's sad enough.
Any other thoughts?
Not really.
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What are your thoughts on rape itself
I feel like it's a horrible thing. But it's worst for the victim itself because it ends up hurting them and sometimes it sickens me.

Do you believe people 'ask for it' when they dress provocatively
No. A person should be allowed to wear what they want, without fear of people taking it the wrong way. I feel like it's bad to say somebody 'asked for it' because it's not the same. Nobody asks for this, and if people think so then how messed up can they be.
What is consent to you Mutual for me.

Do you believe men can be raped too
Er...I'll best not comment onto this one...
Do you think there's a way to stop rape?
*sigh* if only. The world is messed up, but in some places it's...different. This is one problem that nobody can think of a good solution because it varies. Though it would be nice if this could be done away with and the victims could get better peace of mind.
Any other thoughts?
I guess I should consider myself to be a lucky person to avoid many bad things. But I hate on the T.V seeing people that should be punished not getting it. How can a woman (mainly women it seems sadly) pretend that it happened? It makes me angry that the court system sometimes lets the offender get off with it.

The best way to prevent this...is to better punish offenders for this crime because they damage the person in more ways than one.
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What are your thoughts on rape itself

its nasty, its dirty, and it destroys the person that you are forcing it upon. what has to go on in someones head to think that they have to punish them in a way that destroys their dignity, it makes them feel violated the rest of their lives, and hurts every other person that he/she will be with or date or even be friends with.

Do you believe people 'ask for it' when they dress provocatively

everyone has a right to express themselves. some people do it by coloring their hair or piercing their ears, getting a tattoo, or dressing in a certain way. just because you dress a certain way or act different or even like every one else doesn't mean that you deserved to be punished for being yourself. they cant be happy dressing a certain way because you don't like it? we have the right to pursue happiness. it doesn't matter how you do it, by getting good grades , by making music, by traveling around the world. or even dressing in a certain way. as long as you're happy.

What is consent to you

by definition its agreement to do something but its more than that, it is so that neither person feels guilty that they are doing it, or have some kind of pressure into doing something that they don't feel comfortable with

Do you believe men can be raped too

ofcourse, there are always going to be bad people, men or women, anyone is capable of anything as long as they feel strong enough about it.

Do you think there's a way to stop rape?

i think that we can mostly put an end to it but you cant catch every bad person, but at least its a start. so no, but that doesn't mean that we shouldn't try to do something.

Any other thoughts?

although there is rape and violence everywhere, i think that most of it happens where there are no news reporters to see it, like in Africa and the middle east. most African women have more than 3 children but how many are actually theirs?
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What are your thoughts on rape itself
Stupid.
It is caused by people using their emotions as facts instead of using their brains.

Do you believe people 'ask for it' when they dress provocatively
Well.. No. Not at all. We should wear what we want.

What is consent to you
"Yes"..? Unless you're drunk. In that case, you'd have to take other stuff into the picture.

Do you believe men can be raped too
I don't see why not.

Do you think there's a way to stop rape?
Light Yagami with a Death Note. (I'm kidding, I'm kidding...)
No, I think spreading awareness is most probably the right way to go...

Any other thoughts?
Not at the moment...
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