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Re: Trigger Warning: Sexual harassment/assault

Postby Ariyenne » June 30th, 2018, 4:35:47 am

What are your thoughts on sex crimes themselves?
I believe we should have harder punishments on them. An make kids more aware that it is OK to tell someone.

Do you believe people 'ask for it' when they dress provocatively?
Nope. Even that woman on the street corner selling her body for a few bucks has rights where that is concerned.

What is consent to you?
Consent is two legal adults (Over 18) saying Ok to one another. If they are not ready for a child they should take steps to prevent one and not just "pulling Out".

Have you ever experienced sex crimes?
Yes

How do you think society's portrayal of sex crimes hinders or helps us?
Hinders. We make a huge deal out of it for a couple days then it is yesterday's news. Men do not look at a woman abused the same way. They in allot of cases are considered sluts, whores, what have you that they call them these days. Used goods was my favored. A rapist gets maybe 4 years. Molest a child get four or five years. Others never get to see prison due to the statue of limitations.

Do you think the media plays a role in all of this?
These women who are "Coming Out" still make it hard for those of us that has stayed silent for so many years. We are still afraid. I don't want my name in the news. I don't want anything said that I am the victim. I have spent years trying to move on. I know I never will but I can protect those closest to me. If it was the choice between me or her I would put myself in her place every time.

Do you believe men can be a victim of sex crimes too?
Yes they can. A man/boy can be raped as simply as a woman can.

Have sex crimes affected you or loved ones?
Yes

Do they leave harmful and lasting affects?
I have PTSD.. I can not go out in public without a service animal at my side. I can not sit with my back to an open space even at home. Yeah they have very lasting effects.

Do you think there's a way to stop sex crimes?
We need to catch them early. Not let it last years upon years (15 years different males for me)
We need to support our kids that go though this and show them the love and devotion they deserve. I think Pat Benetar said it best in one of her songs. Becuse I lived this horror I can can say it.
They cry in the dark
So you can't see their tears
They hide in the light
So you can't see their fears
Forgive and forget
All the while
Love and pain become one and the same
In the eyes of a wounded child
Because hell, hell is for children
And you know that their little lives can become such a mess
Hell, hell is for children
And you shouldn't have to pay for your love
With your bones and your flesh

Any other thoughts?
Link to the song.
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Re: Trigger Warning: Sexual harassment/assault

Postby MakuroMythos » July 7th, 2019, 7:46:03 pm

What are your thoughts on sex crimes themselves?

We need to address these problems as effectively as we can and keep an open mind as we do. This is a complex situation, and no one may have the "right" answer, but we can find the best answer available to us.

Do you believe people 'ask for it' when they dress provocatively?

No one asks to be raped or assaulted or harassed. Ever.

What is consent to you?

Consent is voluntary, involves acknowledgement from both parties, can be conditional, can be revoked for any reason at any time, and should never be assumed, regardless of other actions/words.

Have you ever experienced sex crimes?

Yes

How do you think society's portrayal of sex crimes hinders or helps us?

A lack of unbiased information is a huge problem. Biases can be unintentional and present in anyone. When biases are exhibited by sources that we consider reputable and unbiased, such as prominent sex crime advocates, they can be even more damaging than rhetoric spouted by traditionally biased sources (*cough*Fox News*cough*).

Do you think the media plays a role in all of this?

Media is one of the most influential ways people's view of sex crimes is formed/changed. This can be either beneficial or harmful, depending on how the media handles and portrays the incident.

Do you believe men can be a victim of sex crimes too?

Absolutely. Men of any orientation can be victims. Sex crimes are not gender-specific.

Have sex crimes affected you or loved ones?

Yes. I have friends who I love very much who have been hurt.

Do they leave harmful and lasting affects?

Always. I don't believe anyone can be the survivor of a sex crime without suffering in some way, even if they themselves don't realize it.

Do you think there's a way to stop sex crimes?

Not all perpetrators of sex crimes can be deterred by traditional means like laws, education, etc., so I don't be lieve we will ever be able to completely eliminate sex crimes, but we can certainly reduce the frequency of them by educating people and making it clear that such behavior is inexcusable in any situation.

Any other thoughts?

Although much of sexual assault, harrasment, and rape is fairly clear-cut and dry, there are instances where a sex crime is the result of a misunderstanding or lack of communication, which is where consent is extremely important.
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Re: Trigger Warning: Sexual harassment/assault

Postby chokeholds » July 23rd, 2019, 12:44:49 am

What are your thoughts on sex crimes themselves?
they are next in line to violence, especially considering they commonly involve violence and murder.
Do you believe people 'ask for it' when they dress provocatively?
no. in no way is someone "asking for it" based on if they wear a short skirt or a tight outfit or whatever. most people that i have met that have gone through this trauma were in no way dressed for it.
What is consent to you?
consent is a yes for any kind of sexual action. regardless if its not seen as a big deal to some, anything can effect someone a different way so i believe it should be made sure it is ok regardless of the intensity of the action
Have you ever experienced sex crimes?
sadly i am in that percentage.
How do you think society's portrayal of sex crimes hinders or helps us?
i think the lack of education on the issue perpetuates the problem. the fact that no youth in the united states, which is supposed to be one of the most open minded countries, have any form of proper sexual education is
Do you think the media plays a role in all of this?
yes, because sexual assault is almost never covered well in media.
Do you believe men can be a victim of sex crimes too?
as one, yes, especially including that there was a time committed by a nb women. gender does not affect assault!
Have sex crimes affected you or loved ones?
it has affected me and multiple people i know including my current significant other and most of my female friends.
Do they leave harmful and lasting affects?
i can only speak for myself but i have diagnosed ptsd and extreme body issues due to this so yes.
Do you think there's a way to stop sex crimes?
yes. education. though there is no way to just get rid of evil people, it can be avoided by awareness.
Any other thoughts?
csa and sa are the most aggravating and upsetting things for me lets go punishing sex offenders.
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Re: Trigger Warning: Sexual harassment/assault

Postby cat4139 » November 8th, 2019, 12:02:25 am

Hey, I have a discussion question for you guys! Do you think rape is worse than murder? Rape is very awful, and it leaves victims with very severe effects. PTSD, trauma, and depression are just to name a few. Personally, I can understand why people view rape as being worse than murder. What are your guys' thoughts on this matter?
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Re: Trigger Warning: Sexual harassment/assault

Postby LavenderInk » November 20th, 2019, 5:36:33 pm

What are your thoughts on sex crimes themselves? They often (not always) happen because sex is generally treated not as something special and "sacred", but as a tool for domination over someone else. Of course they are bad... does anyone here find them okay? I highly doubt it.

Do you believe people 'ask for it' when they dress provocatively? No. That's just stupid.

What is consent to you? Consent is when everyone involved clearly wants it, and not only after being bothered for a while, but completely on their own.

Have you ever experienced sex crimes? I wouldn't say so.

How do you think society's portrayal of sex crimes hinders or helps us? No idea honestly. The main problem is the portrayal of sex in general, not so much of sex crimes.

Do you think the media plays a role in all of this? Kind of... sex is treated too much like a consumable good or like something "superfical", compared to food, which it's in fact not at all.

Do you believe men can be a victim of sex crimes too? Of course, it's not that rare either.

Have sex crimes affected you or loved ones? Wouldn't say so. Not entirely sure though.

Do they leave harmful and lasting affects? Absolutely sure.

Do you think there's a way to stop sex crimes? No idea, they can at least be reduced, but entirely stopped.... that's difficult to say.

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Re: Trigger Warning: Sexual harassment/assault

Postby Laeril » December 28th, 2019, 12:08:43 am

What are your thoughts on sex crimes themselves? They are the worst thing you can do to another human being short of killing them.

Do you believe people 'ask for it' when they dress provocatively? No.

What is consent to you? No means no. Younger than legal majority means hell no.

Have you ever experienced sex crimes? No, thank heavens.

How do you think society's portrayal of sex crimes hinders or helps us? Society is so contradictory that messages of what is okay and not okay when it comes to sexual behavior are very muddled anymore.

Do you think the media plays a role in all of this? Mainstream media is trying to make it very clear that sexual harassment and sexual assault are bad. Unfortunately, pornography still exists, is easier to find than ever, and warps the viewers' perceptions of what a healthy sexual relationship is.

Do you believe men can be a victim of sex crimes too? Absolutely. And it probably happens more often than anyone likes to think.

Have sex crimes affected you or loved ones? My mother, her older sister, and her half-sister were all victims of sexual abuse at their father's hand, in addition to emotional and physical abuse. Her older sister literally developed different personalities to try and deal with the trauma. Her half-sister has never had a healthy relationship in her life. My mom is the only one of them to seek out help in overcoming the trauma, from both earthly sources like counseling and from sincere prayer to heal her broken heart (don't knock it until you've tried it).

Do they leave harmful and lasting affects? Obviously, seeing as sexual assault is a form of trauma. And it doesn't just hurt the victim. When I first found out about my mom's abuse, I was so mad at my grandfather I couldn't see straight. I wrote some things about it in my journal that essentially amounted to "Why isn't he in prison?" When the Alzheimer's finally gets him, I admit I'll be relieved that he'll finally be out of our lives. Isn't that sad? The man could have used his life to be good and instead chose to be awful.

Do you think there's a way to stop sex crimes? Recognizing toxic masculinity as the blight upon humanity that it is and raising children (especially boys) to be respectful of another person's autonomy are good starts.

Any other thoughts? To all victims of sexual assault who come across this: your worth as a human is not determined by what has happened to you.
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Re: Trigger Warning: Sexual harassment/assault

Postby Sassenach » January 8th, 2020, 1:58:02 am

What are your thoughts on sex crimes themselves?
Honestly... I'll never truly understand what drives people to take from others in any way, let alone in such a deeply personal way. Every time I see one pop up in the news, I'm overwhelmed with sadness and pain for the victim, and some anger toward the perpetrator(s) that honestly kinda scares me sometimes.

Do you believe people 'ask for it' when they dress provocatively?
Absolutely. Not. I was wearing jeans and a hoodie. My sister was in her winter pyjamas at home. Neither of us asked for it.

What is consent to you?
Explicit verbal approval from all involved parties from start to finish. Period. Inebriation sort of makes things complicated and really drives home the 'start to finish' part, at least in my opinion.

Have you ever experienced sex crimes?
Yes. At the hands of the one person in the world I trusted to never do that to me.

How do you think society's portrayal of sex crimes hinders or helps us?
It's such a hindrance? Half of today's media romanticizes the crud out of it, the other half still perpetuates that men cannot be victims of sex crimes (which, hello yes I'm here to personally disprove that). I never knew the correct channels to report mine, or where I was able to go for support in the mental wreckage afterwards. It's this BIG No-No but there's never any weight behind the waggled finger whenever it comes up, and heaven forbid anybody talk about it unless it's among other survivors. My own primary physician shamed me, so I ultimately ended up switching docs, but not everyone has that option? Idk man, I get so heated about this stuff.

Do you think the media plays a role in all of this?
Yes, indeed. I touched on it up^ there a little. It's such a common trend in some dramas that we've become used to seeing it as much as we see other forms of violence in media. If I went through and picked out examples, I'd be here until my classes started in June?

Do you believe men can be a victim of sex crimes too?
Yes, hello. I was born male, though I don't identify strictly as such these days, and I am a victim of rape and sexual abuse.

Have sex crimes affected you or loved ones?
^

Do they leave harmful and lasting affects?
It's been five years since my boyfriend at the time refused to take no for an answer, completely sober, and kept me from calling out to my grandparents down the hall. I still flinch whenever my current partner moves towards me too quickly in bed, or when their hand comes anywhere near my neck. My sister still sees her rapist's face on strangers in public, and hers happened a good while before mine.

Do you think there's a way to stop sex crimes?
Education and a social expectation for respect between others can reduce them, but I'm not certain we'll ever completely stop them. I cannot stress this enough.

Any other thoughts?
I... agh, I get so angry and upset about this whole topic. It just doesn't make sense how you can think someone deserves that, or asks for it, or is beneath the basic respect due. Especially since I've experienced the victim's ordeal from both assigned genders, with myself and with my sister? The lack of gravity surrounding one of the heaviest traumas I've seen people carry is... astounding.
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