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Re: I have DID. There's 7 of us.

Postby Hectrae » January 13th, 2017, 6:55:23 pm

I've never been outright with them, and told them, since they are only 4 and 6. and there is alot that we keep from them, like life wit their father, which horribly affected my oldest. I left him when i was pregnant with my youngest and my oldest was 1.5yrs. but he still deals with the trauma. BUT they are very smart kids, and they pick up on it. They call all of us mommy, but they know when my partner or friends call me by other names. And the fact that I am vegetarian, while K is not kinda confuses them lol.

my 4 yr old always asks if something is okay for me to eat right now. he'll yell out "mommy that has meat!!!"and then ask if its meat time for mommy lol

We dont really phase them, yet. because they dont know any better. but i think when they get older and realize that mom isnt normal. that not all mommies have 7 other names, it'll be hard.

I do my best to be open with them, while staying on their level.my biggest rule for the house is no secrets. it makes it easier for everyone because even my others "mostly" follow that rule.
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Re: I have DID. There's 7 of us.

Postby Fuiuki » January 13th, 2017, 7:16:21 pm

It sounds like the way to go with it really, they are still very young. Still, don't underestimate children's intelligence. They seem like really sweet boys though ^_^ Your 4-year old especially, that was just precious. It does sound like they are already getting a grasp of how you are and work.

It sounds like all of you are a good mother though, as none of you seem to be malicious, even towards yourself. That's probably one of the most worrying things when someone has multiple personalities, that they aren't good for the person who has them.
If any of your children show signs of disorders themselves, I have no doubt you'll be there for them either. If you get worried about them being affected by something themselves, don't be afraid to voice your concerns to your therapist, or get them help if something is clearly wrong.

I think it's a very good policy to not keep secrets, children are smarter about it than most parents I meet realise. It'll likely only be harder for them to cope if they know you are keeping things from them, without explaining. Some discretion when talking to children is a given though, of course.


I have some other questions now too. If I understand you right, do the others kind of take control of the body, or is it mostly just your talking? Either way, how frequent is it, and is there a pattern other than stress triggering it?
Oh, and more out of curiosity, how does it affect you to talk about this? As in, referring to yourself as "me"? And who have I primarely been talking to? I have to admit that the concept of several people in one is fascinating, but of course you don't need to answer anything that you don't feel is relevant.
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Re: I have DID. There's 7 of us.

Postby Hectrae » January 13th, 2017, 7:31:28 pm

You've been talking to me, I'm the host. The one born into the body I guess. We usually refer to ourselves as me whenever we're in charge, and we when were talking about group decisions or something that effects all of us. We never make a decision(other than what to eat or wear) without consulting the others first.

So far it seems to just be stress? sometimes it's people, like my ex, or my mother. They tend to trigger K. And they can come out at will, with permission, to hang out with people.

We can switch up to 50 times a day on an exciting day. although we dont always announce ourselves if we dont need to. and some days it's just me all day.
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Re: I have DID. There's 7 of us.

Postby Fuiuki » January 13th, 2017, 7:40:35 pm

I see, thank you for answering! Does it take a lot of time for decisions sometimes then? Although, I guess it's a kind of perfect democracy, isn't it?

I see I see, is there specific people one of you like to spend time with more? And, do the others come out to contribute to regular conversations, like around the dinner table? It certainly sounds like an interesting lifestyle, even if exhausting.

So, you, the born-in one, do you spend most of the time in charge? Or do you have different days where just one of you is in charge? I suppose, some of you might not really need to at times, based on when you appeared.

Another question I got curious about: I know you've not given me your real names, obviously, but how DID you come up with them? Was it you yourselves naming yourselves individually, or did one of the others do it for them? Or the host perhaps?


Also, just to make sure, but I want to let you know that you can talk to me if you want, no matter who you are at the moment. I'd love to get to know all of you if I ever get the chance ^_^
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Re: I have DID. There's 7 of us.

Postby Hectrae » January 13th, 2017, 7:56:37 pm

Lol you'll probaby meet a few of us over time. K, L and J tend to be the only ones who enjoy using the computer.

We names ourseves? I guess? at least they already had names when they introduced themselves to me lol

and yeah it kinda works that way. K and my partner get along very well, although she doesnt get along well with my best friend lol. they have a relatively friendly rivalry. L tends to keep to herself, but she really likes nother fried of mine. We all have our own relationships with the people around the body.

and usually if someone has a one liner to add into a "dinner conversation" whoever is out will ay "so and so says ...." if they have more to say they'll jump out, say their piece then go back.unless the other one allows them to stay out.
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Re: I have DID. There's 7 of us.

Postby Fuiuki » January 13th, 2017, 8:00:38 pm

If so, I'll look forward to it ^_^


It sounds like you actually have a really interesting, an fairly healthy, relationship with all of you. I don't really have any more questions, but I hope they helped, and I wish you the sincerest of luck with your future! I hope to talk some more as well, if you need it as well as just wanna chat :)
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Re: I have DID. There's 7 of us.

Postby Hectrae » January 13th, 2017, 8:07:20 pm

I think we do :) for as much as my ex was a ******** he really did help me get a grasp on all of us.

I added you as a friend, I hope that alright :) And thank you :)
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Re: I have DID. There's 7 of us.

Postby Aethris » March 14th, 2017, 10:28:55 pm

Uh oh, this thread is a bit old but if you're still answering questions (and of course, if you're willing to answer this one)...
I don't know anyone who has DID and I've wondered one thing: how do interests work for you? Do your personalities have different interests? If so, are they mildly or wildly different from each other? Has this affected your decisions on what to study in school and what jobs to get? If they have wildly different interests, how do you pick a career?

And since it's been 2 months now... how has therapy been for you? Has it changed your relationship with the others?
I hope everything has been going well :)
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Re: I have DID. There's 7 of us.

Postby Draegi » January 14th, 2018, 2:30:33 am

I have two: X, who appeared when was around 7, and Rok, who came about at age 13 (though he kinda disappeared for some time). I honestly try not to acknowledge their existence and I've never been diagnosed with any kind of dissociative disorder, but I do struggle a bit because X is a sociopath. They don't bother me too much, since I have to be extremely unstable to have them come out (for X, if I'm about to be hurt, and Rok if I'm about to hurt myself) but I worry about how I come across.
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Re: I have DID. There's 7 of us.

Postby Vampyredragon » February 12th, 2018, 1:59:58 am

Holy crap...I cant begin to imagine? I mean sometimes I want out of my OWN head and theres only one voice in there! Lets hope you can get some help <3

Ive never talked to/met anyone with this disorder. I have, however, seen it portrayed on tv and in movies though.
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