How Was Your Day Thread V5

[Cyrinus]

Ugh oh boy, here's some drama. My partner and I planned on going on a nice little one day trip since we finished this semester of college. I said my partner could bring along his friend because his friend is well... homeless. He's been living with us. We didn't want to tell him he cant come and we both enjoy his company.

Here's the problem. Partner's friend (let's call him T) wants to bring his boyfriend. T's boyfriend hates my partner and I. He has outright said this to our faces. And we do not know why. T doesn't know why either. We had never met him before and he just outright said to us he hates us.

My partner and I were going to be using our own hard earned money to pay for gas for the trip, food, goodies, etc. Obviously we don't want to bring T's boyfriend with us because of how he treats us. We both know T's boyfriend is going just for a free ride and free food. T even stated his boyfriend thinks this is going to be awkward because he hates us and we know it.

We don't really know how to nicely tell T we don't want his boyfriend to come with us... Why would we? Why should we use our hard earned money on someone who hates us? I am literally so sick from anxiety. I feel like I am going to puke. I don't know what to do. We didn't even invite T's boyfriend, he invited himself. My partner and I really do not want him going and feel like it will ruin our trip. Are we rude to think that?

[Enchanteddil]

TWITTER IS WORKING !!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ban on social media was lifted late last evening and I'm so happy Hopefully no one creates anymore problems here for the government to ban it again

[Danafox]

Ugh oh boy, here's some drama. My partner and I planned on going on a nice little one day trip since we finished this semester of college. I said my partner could bring along his friend because his friend is well... homeless. He's been living with us. We didn't want to tell him he cant come and we both enjoy his company.

Here's the problem. Partner's friend (let's call him T) wants to bring his boyfriend. T's boyfriend hates my partner and I. He has outright said this to our faces. And we do not know why. T doesn't know why either. We had never met him before and he just outright said to us he hates us.

My partner and I were going to be using our own hard earned money to pay for gas for the trip, food, goodies, etc. Obviously we don't want to bring T's boyfriend with us because of how he treats us. We both know T's boyfriend is going just for a free ride and free food. T even stated his boyfriend thinks this is going to be awkward because he hates us and we know it.

We don't really know how to nicely tell T we don't want his boyfriend to come with us... Why would we? Why should we use our hard earned money on someone who hates us? I am literally so sick from anxiety. I feel like I am going to puke. I don't know what to do. We didn't even invite T's boyfriend, he invited himself. My partner and I really do not want him going and feel like it will ruin our trip. Are we rude to think that?

Spoiler

I will be 100% honest with you. You need to tell this friend that they can house sit with their boyfriend at your place....although be sure to take with you or put in a safe any money/valuables that you don't want them to touch/steal etc. (this is one option if you want to risk it....if it were me I wouldn't)

Or maybe even ask this friend to stay with their boyfriend, while you and your boyfriend go on your vacation by yourselves. (this is option number 2 and the path I think you should take)

But basically it amounts to saying NO to this friend and go on your one day vacation by yourselves. (definitely the path you should take, trust me you will be thankful)

Spend both of your own hard earn money on your relationship, not on a friend and their bf who hates you and that you know is going along with it for the free ride/food etc. Don't let yourself be taken advantage of and say that you are sorry but that you want this one day vacation to be just you and your bf alone.

If you have to explain beyond that, then say you both want privacy. But basically, I honestly think it's a very bad idea to have a third wheel (even with the circumstances) and even worse when that friends bf has said to you both that he hates you.....that is not going to be a good time, that's nothing but a time bomb. Your trip will be ruined. You are going to have to say firmly NO to this friend. If you lose this friendship due to this....well then actions speak louder than words.

Also, for future reference, I think trips with friends can be a very bad idea for certain friendships. There's certain friends that you just know won't be a good dynamic in a trip type of environment. I had some friends who went on a trip together and it turned into a pure nightmare. Friendships severely ended there and two are now total enemies to the point that they refuse to go to social functions where the others attend (and we are all mutual friends). Sooo...yeah... Also to try to be positive...there are some friendships if you know the person for many, many years (like 5 years or longer) and you are extremely close to them and them to you, that you know having a trip with them and your significant other and theirs will be fine and great.

Maybe if you want, plan a day or weekend where you do something nice like dinner and a movie for your friend and you and your boyfriend. Or if you go on a short road trip to somewhere like a beach or something, but you and your boyfriend need to plan it with your friend and I don't know if they have a job or can get a job or something, but if not then you need to plan the expenses for your friend etc....But that is something you can do in the future to enjoy their company.....but just not this particular trip.

At least that's my opinion....sorry if I was bitchy but I'm sick atm lolol and just imagining this ordeal made me angry tbh. I don't think it's cool that they have put you in this awkward position in the first place.

[AssassinsCreed]

Ugh oh boy, here's some drama. My partner and I planned on going on a nice little one day trip since we finished this semester of college. I said my partner could bring along his friend because his friend is well... homeless. He's been living with us. We didn't want to tell him he cant come and we both enjoy his company.

Here's the problem. Partner's friend (let's call him T) wants to bring his boyfriend. T's boyfriend hates my partner and I. He has outright said this to our faces. And we do not know why. T doesn't know why either. We had never met him before and he just outright said to us he hates us.

My partner and I were going to be using our own hard earned money to pay for gas for the trip, food, goodies, etc. Obviously we don't want to bring T's boyfriend with us because of how he treats us. We both know T's boyfriend is going just for a free ride and free food. T even stated his boyfriend thinks this is going to be awkward because he hates us and we know it.

We don't really know how to nicely tell T we don't want his boyfriend to come with us... Why would we? Why should we use our hard earned money on someone who hates us? I am literally so sick from anxiety. I feel like I am going to puke. I don't know what to do. We didn't even invite T's boyfriend, he invited himself. My partner and I really do not want him going and feel like it will ruin our trip. Are we rude to think that?

Spoiler

I Agree with Danafox. Don't take T`s boyfriend with you. Let T and his boyfriend stay
And since T`s boyfriend invited himself... no. Cut that shitty behaviour and person off now,if you let this continue it will get much, much worse. He said he hates you = no need for him to be around you or your partner just for the sake of a free ride.

Since you and your partner are the ones paying for the trip, you have all right to refuse to take anyone with you if that's the case. You are not rude; you are the ones making the trip so you are the ones who have all right to decide who comes with you and not. And T`s boyfriend (excuse the swearing..) is a freeloading egoistic asshole. NOBODY should invite themselves on a trip, especially when they stated they hate the person who is making the trip.


Stand strong Cyrinus Anxiety is a nasty thing, but in this case, both you and your partner have 10000% right to say "fuck off" without feeling bad or thinking its rude.

It's rude to say you hate 2 people and then invite yourself into someones trip/household mm. THAT is rude. You and your partner are not. Don't let anyone push you around. Putting your foot down is not rude, just necessary in this case

[Anira]

Spoiler

I DON'T FUCKING CARE IF THIS IS A SMALL TOWN IN THE MIDDLE OF NOWHERE, OR IF OREGON PASSED A LAW SAYING WE CAN HAVE SELF SERVICE! EACH STATION CHOOSES HOW THEIR FUEL IS TO BE PUMPED! WE DO NOT ALLOW SELF SERVICE! READ THE DAMN SIGNS AND STOP ASSUMING ALL STATIONS ARE THE SAME!

And when I point it out to you, and you apologize, and I say, "That's okay." in my professional voice with a smile on my face, it was, IN NO WAY, okay....

[Graveworm]

Ugh oh boy, here's some drama. My partner and I planned on going on a nice little one day trip since we finished this semester of college. I said my partner could bring along his friend because his friend is well... homeless. He's been living with us. We didn't want to tell him he cant come and we both enjoy his company.

Here's the problem. Partner's friend (let's call him T) wants to bring his boyfriend. T's boyfriend hates my partner and I. He has outright said this to our faces. And we do not know why. T doesn't know why either. We had never met him before and he just outright said to us he hates us.

My partner and I were going to be using our own hard earned money to pay for gas for the trip, food, goodies, etc. Obviously we don't want to bring T's boyfriend with us because of how he treats us. We both know T's boyfriend is going just for a free ride and free food. T even stated his boyfriend thinks this is going to be awkward because he hates us and we know it.

We don't really know how to nicely tell T we don't want his boyfriend to come with us... Why would we? Why should we use our hard earned money on someone who hates us? I am literally so sick from anxiety. I feel like I am going to puke. I don't know what to do. We didn't even invite T's boyfriend, he invited himself. My partner and I really do not want him going and feel like it will ruin our trip. Are we rude to think that?

I don’t have anything to add to what Danafox and Assassins Creed said, I just want to underscore that what they both said is 100% correct.

[Sochitelya]

So my idiot brother left the gate open and of course the horses come wandering out into the front yard while there's a whole bunch of people over loading up a U-Haul with boxes for storage and the horses go racing off into the front field because they're assholes. My mom, her friend, and the two Mennonite kids who were helping out are chasing them and I just walk out there with a scoop of grain, put a hand under my gelding's jaw (no halter), and calmly walk them all back into the field. I seemed like the fucking horse whisperer.

I also had no idea if it would actually work, so I would've looked like an idiot if Riff had given me the finger and run off.

[MistyoC]

So my idiot brother left the gate open and of course the horses come wandering out into the front yard while there's a whole bunch of people over loading up a U-Haul with boxes for storage and the horses go racing off into the front field because they're assholes. My mom, her friend, and the two Mennonite kids who were helping out are chasing them and I just walk out there with a scoop of grain, put a hand under my gelding's jaw (no halter), and calmly walk them all back into the field. I seemed like the fucking horse whisperer.

I also had no idea if it would actually work, so I would've looked like an idiot if Riff had given me the finger and run off.

Don't you love when moments like that work? :-)

[AssassinsCreed]

Madonna... you give me hope. You sing like a cultist who`s vocals has been destroyed by drugs or other ways, and yet you still get paid 1,3miljon dollar for 6min of... cult-inspired HELL.I dont even know what it was. I just know that I wanted to grab Holy water after the first 5 seconds.
I will be fine at work. Even if I fuck up,I wont be worse or more overpaid than you.

Tell me about overprized "world artist"

[jmilana]

Hey, guys! My sister, McKenna, is graduating from Scripps College right now! Maybe PM her some congratulations? That would be really awesome, and I'm sure she would appreciate it.