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Have you ever openly talked to anyone about how you feel? As in precise details?

It might simply be because everyone is caught up in their own personal lives and not so much meant as something personal towards you. Also, feeling lonely is a big part of growing up. I do not know your age but when you are growing up, mid-teens to mid-twenties is a path of self-discovery. You basically turn into your own person with your own interests and these might not match with your relatives anymore.

I had the same experience and it's only now, being 37, that I find I have a little more common ground with them but still not to the same extent when I was, say 12.

As for advice; grow further. See what interests you and get informed about what else is out there in the world. Find people outside of your own home that share those interests, whether IRL or online. Obviously, mind the creeps out there...make sure you only get involved with people around your own age.

Keep communicating as well; keep your parents and siblings up to date with how their behavior makes you feel in a calm way. Don't let their rudeness make you rude in turn, if you start to behave negative too (and I get being frustrated and completely fed up with it) you'll only add fuel to the fire. Simple state "If you do that it makes me feel ____ so I hope you will act accordingly" and leave it at that.

BradTheMad wrote:Have you ever openly talked to anyone about how you feel? As in precise details?

I tried that and my dad called me hormonal and scolded me for telling him I felt like he wasn't actually noticing that that wasn't it. I felt really hurt when he said that.

I think that, unfortunately, a lot of adults forget what it was like to be a teenager (I'm assuming you're a teenager), and therefore find it difficult to relate and empathise, and in my experience, my siblings really weren't friends when we were growing up--we didn't hang out together or confide in each other.

I don't know what sort of a family dynamic you have, but you could maybe try calling a "family meeting" and explain to them that you feel like you guys should spend more time together as a family? Maybe suggest having a family day out once a month or something, where you all do something fun together, or commit to having a family meal once a week.

Intempestivity wrote:I think that, unfortunately, a lot of adults forget what it was like to be a teenager (I'm assuming you're a teenager), and therefore find it difficult to relate and empathise, and in my experience, my siblings really weren't friends when we were growing up--we didn't hang out together or confide in each other.

I don't know what sort of a family dynamic you have, but you could maybe try calling a "family meeting" and explain to them that you feel like you guys should spend more time together as a family? Maybe suggest having a family day out once a month or something, where you all do something fun together, or commit to having a family meal once a week.

I did this, and we're getting somewhere. Thanks!

TheEmbodimentOfKarma wrote:

Intempestivity wrote:I think that, unfortunately, a lot of adults forget what it was like to be a teenager (I'm assuming you're a teenager), and therefore find it difficult to relate and empathise, and in my experience, my siblings really weren't friends when we were growing up--we didn't hang out together or confide in each other.

I don't know what sort of a family dynamic you have, but you could maybe try calling a "family meeting" and explain to them that you feel like you guys should spend more time together as a family? Maybe suggest having a family day out once a month or something, where you all do something fun together, or commit to having a family meal once a week.

I did this, and we're getting somewhere. Thanks!

Glad that the suggestion helped!