This.Jynxii wrote:I know what she was saying, and I was saying she shouldn't worry about anything, that some day she will find someone, but worrying over it and thinking something is wrong isn't doing any good for herself, and sometimes that can reflect on others and cause a hindrance to her meeting people. And I think that's what most people meant as well.
I have only been with one person and I am 24, so it's not uncommon for people to have only been asked out once or twice or never, especially young like at 20. And just because a guy hasn't voiced his like for you doesn't mean there isn't one that doesn't want you, you might just not see it. Try asking a guy out instead of waiting if it's that hard.
Worrying about small things isn't what she should be doing, it will happen in time, so enjoy being single while it lasts.
I'm 24 and haven't been in a lasting relationship (not a virgin, though), nor am I generally popular with people, but the "older" I get, the more I appreciate it now that I'm not tied to anyone and am free to pursue my own interests without having to take someone else into account for the time being.
There was something like a prospect of a possible relationship last year, when I was 23, but we didn't go into that because the person in question was leaving to study overseas, although we recognised that hadn't it been for that, we might have explored the possibility of a relationship, which was the first time for me like that - we got along as friends and there was some mutual attraction as well.
Really, you shouldn't worry. For myself, I'd rather be alone and wait for someone that I get along with than be recognised as a woman for recognition's sake.
And there's another thing, that I found out during an awkward friendship that didn't really work out; I hope this isn't too off-topic - if you have self-esteem issues regarding relationships, being in a relationship isn't going to magically cure them. In fact, it might be quite the opposite, you might feel pressured to play along with the other person's wishes and you might keep wondering whether you're good enough/whether there isn't something "wrong" with you. Lasting self-esteem comes from WITHIN, not other people.