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TheStrangeWeirdo wrote:My suggestion is: Ask a guy out. Often guys are too scared of asking a girl out in case they're rejected, especially if they're cute/hot, which may be the case here. Or alternatively you're in that middle ground where you aren't really hot so much so that a hot/handsome guy would ask you out, but you're still reasonably attractive.
I doubt that a guy would take offense if you asked him out - he'd probably be relieved that he doesn't have to ask himself.
Maybe the guys you're asking are either too stupid (XD) or not socially knowledgeable enough to know for sure (sort of thing, which ties into what I said earlier) so that they'd be like, "Hmm... Is she saying that she wants to go out with me? But what if she isn't?"
Of course, I'm a bit young myself and don't know much about the dating world. If you're confident enough, just try it.
TNHawke wrote:There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being 20 and single. I have friends and acquaintances who didn't get married until their 30s or even 40s. Most of them have even had children, all perfectly happy and healthy.
I myself am 34 and have only had 2 boyfriends EVER. Both started out as good personal friends, so we decided to take it to the next level. The first one didn't work out, but we remain friends. I'm still in it with the 2nd.
I agree with what Cupcake said- get a third party to help you with your social interactions. You might even visit a relationship therapist and see what they can advise. They may even have classes or help groups for teaching what most of your country considers appropriate social interactions.
There's always sites like eHarmony.com too. I did use it for a while and had a couple of prospects, but in the end, they didn't work out and I'm ok with that. I wasn't going at it hard core. One of the most useful things I found about eHarmony was the personality profile. As long as you answer all the questions honestly- usually go with your first gut instinct- it can be very revealing. Then, they send out periodic emails with information and advice. Often things along the lines of "what you're doing that you don't realize you're doing that is turning them off". You only have to pay if you want to communicate with prospective matches. I remain a member just for those emails because I find them interesting.
I also made both of my boyfriends do the personality profile and see if we matched! The first one- and it should have been a red flag- we very much did not. The second, the stupid site said he couldn't be matched (too introverted, but opinionated, basically) but since we'd gotten past the meet and now we like each other phase that eharmony was tripping over, we match and mesh really well. I also like to close my account and open a new one with a new email address every couple of years just to take the profile again and see where I've stayed the same and where I've changed. It's really enlightening.
I don't have any experience with other such sites, so I can't say yay or nay on any of them.
anyu wrote:I am 20 years old and I am still single. There are times when I don't like it, but I'm really okay with it at the moment. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with me, and there isn't anything wrong with you. I've never been on a date and I've never been kissed. I'm just waiting for the right guy to come along or for the right time in my life when I feel comfortable asking a guy out. It'll happen someday, just stay positive ;)
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