I'm a lesbian, and although I'm more than comfortable being identified as female, recently I've been having discussions with my partner and we both came to the conclusion that we feel as though we fit under the trans* umbrella to an extent. Here's an anecdote:
I've always been drawn to androgyny, and I present androgynous myself. My girlfriend, who has always presented very androgynous, decided to shave her head as an "F*** you!" to society, which I supported. She looks great. We have a couple friends who are also females with shaved heads and they like to wear wigs - one for cosplay, the other one, simply because it's easier than constantly dyeing and bleaching your hair into crazy colours. So, my girlfriend decided she's gonna buy a wig. Not to hide her bald little head, but just as an accessory she can put on or take off whenever she feels like it. She did - a long, black one - and she looks great in it, but she had concerns over whether I would still be attracted to her because it's so feminine.
That of course wasn't a problem, but the point of this anecdote was my realisation. When a girl dresses androgynous and/or masculine, sure, I find it hot - that's genderbending and genderbending is rad. But when my androgynous girlfriend dons a feminine wig, to me, she is genderbending too - because her gender identity isn't of a female to me, but of an androgynous female.
So, in a nutshell, we've been thinking about our gender identity a little more as of late.Edit:
No, this isn't why I have "Kraken" set as my gender...