What do you think causes people to act this way?
The fastest and easiest way to feel big is to make someone else feel small. It's an emotional get-rich-quick scheme.
Why do you think people feel better by ridiculing others?
Power, plain and simple. The bully MADE them feel that way; they are CONTROLLING their victim's emotions. Their victim cannot be happy without their say-so. And why should they say so when it would end their power trip?
As a child/teen have you ever went to a discipline teacher at your school and tell them your problem but they haven't done anything about it?
In four and a half years of school, accounting for eight teachers, six proctors, one vice principal, and one principal, only two teachers ever did anything about it. The principal once made me apologize to my bully, because I spoke against her and it hurt her feelings. I told him I refused to do it, and he threatened to suspend me. My mother had to come to school and tear him a new one in order to keep me there.
If you are an adult and have children have they had similar problems of teachers not doing anything about there bullying case?
No kids of my own, but the teachers wouldn't do anything about my little brother being bullied, either. It took me and my two older brothers scaring the piss out of his aggressors to get them to stop.
If you are an adult without children are you bullied at your workplace or college?
No. By the time I'd hit college, I'd become so hardened and embittered by the bullies of my past, people would barely approach me, let alone attempt to antagonize me. I only became friendly again in the past three years, and I still assume the worst of people when I first meet them.
What are some ideas you may have to decrease the number of suicides/ help the bullying problem? Have you ever witnessed someone being bullied and stood there and just watched?
No. And I have a very low opinion of those who have. As for helping the problem, schools need to crack down on bullies - hard. It's like treating cancer. Excise the tumors/bullies, and you can start the long, painful healing process on the patient/victim.
Have you witnessed someone being bullied and helped them?
Yes. Though I could be cold towards some of the people who tried to help me (often because their help came with conditions which I wasn't always keen to meet), I would never stand to see my real friends bullied. If one of the people who liked to pick on me turned their attentions to a friend of mine, I'd quickly remind them who their target was. Led to a lot more suffering on my part, but a true sense of long-term accomplishment.
As a child have you ever been scared to go to school because of bullies?
Hell yes. You need to understand that in a class of thirty children, there were only six that did not pick on me, and they would do it all day, every day. All the rest of them would, either directly or by facilitating my bullies. I would do everything within my power to get sick so I couldn't go to school - I never washed my hands, I'd lick thinks I knew to be filthy and germ-ridden when no one was looking, I taught myself to recognize the signs of someone coming down with something and I'd do my best to catch it. Once I got sick, I'd try my best to prolong it (like eating rich foods when I was throwing up).
Do you know anyone who may have committed suicide due to bullying?
No, and I hope I never do. I'll spend the rest of my life wishing I'd killed that bully before they killed my friend/family member/passing acquaintance. Not that I could ever kill someone...religiously and emotionally, the burden would be too much.
Were you a bully?
I am ashamed to say that in high school, I fixed on two 'weird kids' and targeted them every time I was having a bad day. I wouldn't go out of my way to make them unhappy, but if I needed a mean-spirited boost and I came across them, I'd make a rude comment on whatever caught my attention that day. I am not ashamed to say that I apologized to them my senior year, and the three of us are now friends.
How did you deal with bullying?
I honestly don't think I did. I was an emotional wreck, always crying, desperate to stay home, all but unable to form any kind of emotional bond with anyone, and hating my parents for keeping me in that school. Had I not been too afraid to commit suicide (according to my religious beliefs, those who do so go to Hell), I wouldn't be here posting this. I'd have killed myself at ten years old.
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