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The only exception that I could think of. I said, exactly, "Except for sexuality, often it is your own fault."
Bullying is often a very sensitive subject for a lot of people, just look at the title of the topic. XD
So I don't begrudge you your passion for it.

Verbal abuse is still bullying. Calling someone fat is bullying as much as threatening to beat them up if they don't give you their lunch money.
It is not so much an inability as ignorance. There have been a few suggestions as to how to repel bullies, they just need to find the right one. Obviously not everyone has the quick wit to send insults rebounding off a bullies head, but I do not have the patience or the will to merely let a bully insult me and ignore it until she/he gets bored of it.

Your ex could easily do that to some random kid. It would be much less damaging for his 'rep' if he did that, instead of associating with someone many people view as ugly.

Paganism is not very well-known. As such I am inclined to believe that most children, especially those in... Grade five is it? Or grade six, or whatever, would know anything about Paganism. If she explained it, which is basically just believing in multiple gods (like Zeus, Odin, or any other number), I don't see how they'd get demons from gods. I also don't see how 'demon' is an insult. At the risk of sounding immature, I think it sounds cool and I would love it if people started calling me 'demon'. XD

However, enough of this, I feel the discussion is starting to go off-topic, so if you feel you want to continue this discussion, I suggest PM.
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TheStrangeWeirdo wrote:That is almost always untrue.
If that person did not solicit your opinion about their appearance or lifestyle, what gives you the right to tell that person your 'truth'? Is it any of your business that the person is fat, gay, handicapped, of a different social class, religion, or race?

People have a basic right to exist without having that right threatened. Calling it truth especially since you are only doing so for the malicious pleasure of hurting someone isn't truth. It's harassment. You have no good reason to hassle someone at all. It's just plain mean.

Fat isn't a fault; it's as much a body type as being thin or tall or pale or short or dark skinned. Like all those things it is genetically driven and the person has no control over it. Nor is it an indicator of health and activity levels and eating habits (I will post the links to the data and information when I am not on a phone). And shaming doesn't work either. There are many health care articles around the world which support that. In any case it's sure not your job to tell that person what they needs or how they should feel or to try shaming them into doing something you think they should.

Homosexuality is also not a fault or a choice. There's nothing you can do about biological wiring.

Your last example doesn't work either. You don't know why that person cannot read not do you know they aren't doing anything about it. You can't tell by looking at them or being told that they aren't working hard to fix the problem...if it can be fixed at all. Many learning disabilities are not correctable; they are tied to brain chemistry and we simply don't know how to repair what went wrong.

You haven't done anything to convince me that bullying is your right and that you should be allowed unasked and with no information other than rumors or a person's looks to tell these people about themselves when they did not ask for your opinion or attention.
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I am dismayed that you have completely misread what I posted.

1st & 2nd paragraph: No, It isn't my business, nor did I say it was. I am not threatening anyone's right to exist, or claiming that bullying is merely the truth. I don't take malicious pleasure in hurting someone (unless, of course, they've hurt me maliciously).

3rd Paragraph: Fat can be a fault. Just because sometimes it is a genetic default or the person in question has a health problem that makes them overweight, doesn't mean other people don't get fat because they over-eat. I ask you, have you ever watched The Biggest Loser? That is a prime example of what I'm trying to say. I respect those people because they have actually tried (and most of them succeeded) to change their health and appearance because, instead of just doing nothing (not talking about people who can't do anything because of the nature of the problem).

4th Paragraph: I never said homosexuality was a choice. Nor did I mean to say it was a fault, just that bullies see it that way.

5th Paragraph: I wasn't talking about a particular person, just people who can't read/read well in general. I have a friend who cannot spell for his life, so he gets bad grades because he isn't willing to do anything about it. All he does is look at the board and blindly copy down everything he sees so that the teacher won't catch on to it (I do know why he can't spell).

6th Paragraph: Thankfully that wasn't my intention at all. The topic asked for my opinion on bullying so I gave it.

Side Note: I realise I wasn't thinking clearly when I said often it is their fault. Just my close-mindedness, that often happens to me. All I think of is a few ones when I don't see the wide range of others.

My new opinion is: Sometimes it isn't your fault, but you do have two choices (often). Change it, or accept it. Otherwise bullies are always going to be targeting you. The options of changing it may be drastic, but those are your choices. I am in no way condoning plastic surgery, however.
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TheStrangeWeirdo wrote: My new opinion is: Sometimes it isn't your fault, but you do have two choices (often). Change it, or accept it. Otherwise bullies are always going to be targeting you. The options of changing it may be drastic, but those are your choices. I am in no way condoning plastic surgery, however.
You have to think hard about what you're saying here, because you are putting the responsibility squarely on the shoulders of the victim in every case. If an attractive woman gets called a whore, it's her fault, so she should dress more conservatively? If a black person gets called a nigger, it's his fault, and he should just accept that as his lot in life? I don't think so.

It is NOT the victim's responsibility to "accept or change" what the bullies think. It is the bully's fault for thinking and acting in such a harmful and antisocial manner.

Bullying is never simple. It can take the form of actual hate, it can be a result of ignorance, it can be violent or or it can just be socially ostracizing. Retorting with "quick wit," as you've stated so many times, doesn't work if you get a punch in the face for it. Responding with violence may not work as you may get labeled as a crazy person by the bullies. A lot of the time, bullies may label someone as something simply because they don't like the person and want to ostracize them. Accepting the label in this case will make it worse. Ignoring bullying may only incite the bullies to step up their game in order to get a reaction, and it's hard to ignore someone doing something like breaking all your stuff (or your face).

My point is, every situation is different, and there's no easy answer for anyone getting bullied. So telling people to either "change or get over it" is really short-sighted. For every bully who may relent if you say "I'm gay, so what?" other bullies might just say "look, he admitted it! Let's beat the crap out of him!" or "Ha, she admitted it, let's make sure she never makes friends again."
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Raneth wrote:
TheStrangeWeirdo wrote: My new opinion is: Sometimes it isn't your fault, but you do have two choices (often). Change it, or accept it. Otherwise bullies are always going to be targeting you. The options of changing it may be drastic, but those are your choices. I am in no way condoning plastic surgery, however.
You have to think hard about what you're saying here, because you are putting the responsibility squarely on the shoulders of the victim in every case. If an attractive woman gets called a whore, it's her fault, so she should dress more conservatively? If a black person gets called a nigger, it's his fault, and he should just accept that as his lot in life? I don't think so.

It is NOT the victim's responsibility to "accept or change" what the bullies think. It is the bully's fault for thinking and acting in such a harmful and antisocial manner.

Bullying is never simple. It can take the form of actual hate, it can be a result of ignorance, it can be violent or or it can just be socially ostracizing. Retorting with "quick wit," as you've stated so many times, doesn't work if you get a punch in the face for it. Responding with violence may not work as you may get labeled as a crazy person by the bullies. A lot of the time, bullies may label someone as something simply because they don't like the person and want to ostracize them. Accepting the label in this case will make it worse. Ignoring bullying may only incite the bullies to step up their game in order to get a reaction, and it's hard to ignore someone doing something like breaking all your stuff (or your face).

My point is, every situation is different, and there's no easy answer for anyone getting bullied. So telling people to either "change or get over it" is really short-sighted. For every bully who may relent if you say "I'm gay, so what?" other bullies might just say "look, he admitted it! Let's beat the crap out of him!" or "Ha, she admitted it, let's make sure she never makes friends again."
I think Raneth is right. There is something to be said for excepting things, but you need to remember that a person can only put up with so much. This year I was being bullied by a girl who would poke me in the face (very close to my eye) with the tip of her viola bow and get her friends to throw stuff at me during lunch. If I had "excepted" that, I would probably be wearing an eye patch in a hospital, waiting for surgery.

Also, sometimes change is hard. When I was little kids in my class would bully me for being easier to get mad. It was because I would see stuff like classmates stomping on worms and yell at them, which I believe is still pretty just. But anyway, I took up carrying this crystal around in my pocket. Whenever I would feel mad I would let my mind go blank and stare into it. Then I would imagine the anger and hurt inside of me being drawn out of my heart, through my arm, into the crystal. It would work, and make me more rational, except now people tease me because-
  • They still remember every little outburst from kindergarten until now
    My eyes go blank when I'm doing this "meditation", and I'm liable to not blink far five minutes. (That's why the poke me in the face.)
Sometimes it's against the rules to change. I get a lot from girls at my school for wearing non-skinny jeans, no short-shorts, very little makeup, and that I don't show off my bra-straps. At my school, besides the makeup, all that is against the rules. And besides, who'd want to freeze to death? I walk to and from school. They ride the cushy bus.
Some people would say I am making myself a target, with the clothes issue. It's my fault I'm bullied and if I just gave in and wore what they wanted me to ear, and got a TV in my room, a fancy phone, and half a dozen i pads, they would stop picking on me. If I just went and stopped doing my homework, and texted 1,000 times a day and stopped writing and stopped caring about science and math, and got some contacts instead of the glasses that I wear they would stop. People actually say that to me.

Then there's stuff I cant' fix. People at my school bully me also because
  • I'm drawn to Star Trek
    I actually care about the world around me (see worm stomping issue above)
    I like "nerdy" Pokemon, Magic, and Yu-Gi-Oh
    I don't have a boyfriend yet
    I'm on honor roll, and doing the advanced homework for every class
    I score super-high on a large chunk off all the tests we take
I can't help this stuff. My parents want me to be smart, so I try. I enjoy knowing stuff. I like science fiction, because it all makes sense to me. On Star Trek, nobody goes up to Spock or Data and yells at them "You suck, you know all this stuff, you're a nerd, go die in a hole!" like they do to me, and that, in my opinion, makes Star Trek 100% better than real life. I cant' help that I ace my tests. I can't just be all "Oh, I'll get bullied if I ace this, so I'll just get a couple easy problems wrong" I can't help that I know that the price of a new ipad is more than a person in a third-world country has to spend on food, water, clothes, everything, in a year.
People see this stuff about me at my school, and they are not very nice to me. People yell my name in the halls, and then tell me I shouldn't bother to stop and say hello, because I won't have any friends, ever. People text me and call me, and tell me that I'm stupid, retarded, nerdy, and should just die to make the world a better place. But what would actually make the world a better place would be if they gave some of that money that they're spending of fashion and shiny new i*insert pad, pod, phone, or touch in here* and instead give it to somebody who actually needs it to live past the age of 15. What was wrong with the old one, may I ask? (I asked somebody at my school this. She told me I was a nerd, and should go back to the trash heap where I belong)
If I changed myself, I would probably be less happy than I am now. And I'm not exactly on Cloud Nine.

Sorry, a simple reply turned into a rant. I'm really sorry to spill my problems.

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"I'd also like to disagree with this statement:

The victims need to know that first, it's not their fault, and second, it's not true.


That is almost always untrue. Often the bullies pick on things that are known. Like, "You're fat!". It IS true, you just need to either change that (go to the gym, or go on a diet), or accept it. Sometimes a bully will say something about your sexuality - if that isn't true, then why get upset about it? If it is true, then accept it. So what if you're gay/bisexual?
Other than sexuality, often it is your fault. So you can't read well. That's not your fault, but it IS your fault that you haven't done anything about it.

The truth is harsh."

So you're saying I'm a nerd, a menace, ugly, retarded, that I will never have friends,will never be loved, can never belong, and should go die in a hole to make the world a better place? Nice to meet you, too.
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To Raneth:
I'm not saying it is their responsibility, but their choice. They have to accept that some people are always going to call them ugly, or a whore, or whatever insult you like. If they can't accept it, then they need to think about changing it.

Well, Raneth, I was only offering suggestions. I didn't mean that it worked all the time, but if what they're doing isn't working, they'd need to try something else some time, whether it be tell a teacher, or a new way of dealing with the bullies.

Now on to TOridelKeto:
Change may be hard, but if you can't accept who you are, then you need to change who you are, or you aren't going to be happy. Or that's my belief. Like, for example, if you aren't happy being an overweight person, think of exercising (if you're overweight because you ate a lot).

In that case you shouldn't change anyway, because that isn't who you are and you're just lying to yourself.

Yea, I did mention I changed my opinion because I realised I was being a bit close-minded and not seeing other things at that time. Really I was only thinking of problems like over-eating (thus overweight, which people can change), or being bad at a subject (they can get tutoring), stuff like that.
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What do you think causes children to act this way?
To dominate, to let their frustration out on others they think are weaker, peer pressure and there's properly a lot more reasons.

Why do you think teens and children feel better by ridiculing others?
I don't think they feel better, but that's just what I think.

If you are a child/teen have you ever went to a discipline teacher at your school and tell them your problem but they haven't done anything about it?
No.

If you are an adult and have children have they had similar problems of teachers not doing anything about there bullying case?
I don't have kids.

If you are an adult without children are you bullied at your workplace or college?
No, I was only bullied from 7th and up, I am now 23 and working.

Have you ever witnessed someone being bullied and stood there and just watched?
No I have never seen anyone get bullied beside myself.

Have you witnessed someone being bullied and helped them?
See above answer.

As a child have you ever been scared to go to school because of bullies?
No I've never been scared of going to school since I've hated it from day one and never wanted to go in the first place.

Do you know anyone who may have committed suicide due to bullying?
No.

Were you a bully?
No, but I think I had the potential since I can be very dominating sometimes. See answer to the first question.

How did you deal with bullying?
Pretty much used "quick wit" and ignoring most it for 4 full years until I had enough. My bully never got the reaction he wanted from me so he kept going and it got worse and worse. I knew I was stronger than my bully both physically and mentally. To his regret he didn't knew that until I turned on him with fire and brimstone. I never broke down into a sopping mess doing those 4 years.

I was bullied because I'm an aspie meaning I have aspergers syndrom I was born with it and will have it to the day I die. I got bullied through mental torture I will not say how since I see no reason for that.

Bullying can be everything from simple constant verbal insults (meaning every day at every chance the bully get to do so) to physical and mental torture. Not everyone can deal with it and using "quick wit" don't always help it didn't work for me. Retaliating at the bully is like a double edged sword since it can either make it worse or make it stop is taking a gamble when it comes to that. You can make the bully stop or you can risk that the bully call for reinforcements in the form of his/her friends.

I can't change what I am and even if I could I would have no intention to do so. Just because you're happy with yourself doesn't mean it doesn't hurt when an idiot decide to target you just because you're different, fat or whatever made up reason they have to do so.
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Just a little heads up, a few less-than appealing words may pop up, as I am still a teenager and school happens to be tomorrow... Not sure yet. Just warning.

What do you think causes children to act this way?
As really everyone as already stated; insecurity, maybe abuse, or never learning the difference between being playful and actually hurting someone as a child.
Why do you think teens and children feel better by ridiculing others?
A lot of times to feel like they are more 'popular' by showing hate towards someone often bullied, or to perhaps get a good laugh/make their friends laugh. Also supposedly 'raising' their self-esteem.
If you are a child/teen have you ever went to a discipline teacher at your school and tell them your problem but they haven't done anything about it?
No, because I already know they won't. The worst they do is 'sternly' warn them like, "Oh, don't do it again or be suspended." Honestly, suspension really doesn't give much of a consequence... In my opinion. Other times, they have you talk, but it's not like the bully really means what they say, most likely, and will return to opposing that person.
If you are an adult and have children have they had similar problems of teachers not doing anything about there bullying case?
Still a teenager...
If you are an adult without children are you bullied at your workplace or college?
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What are some ideas you may have to decrease the number of suicides/ help the bullying problem? Have you ever witnessed someone being bullied and stood there and just watched?
No, but stand up for yourself. It depends on the bully, really. With some, they will get bored of you not reacting, and move on. But others, like ones I know, simply escalate. I have only recently started standing up for myself and speaking my mind more, as dealing with the same people for three years has taught me that ignoring isn't doing much. If you can muster it, don't just talk back, threaten them. And actually mean it. I try to keep my word. If I say you're about to get stabbed if you don't stop making lies about me, thinking it's hysterical to see me cry, or liking someone I hate or some shit, I am not kidding. I actually did last year, and I didn't get in trouble because they were bullying me, and I had warned them before.
Have you witnessed someone being bullied and helped them?
Nope.
As a child have you ever been scared to go to school because of bullies?
I'm never afraid, but I dread it, and hope the day goes by fast.
Do you know anyone who may have committed suicide due to bullying?
No.
Were you a bully?
Never, and never will be. I simply don't have the heart.
How did you deal with bullying?
Well, like I said before, stand up for myself. I haven't done anything to anyone since last year, but it hasn't stopped, and I'm getting fed up. Honestly, I feel like there is no escape; at least for me. One day this year, I might just lose it.

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What do you think causes children to act this way?
I dunno, the need to feel in control I guess.

Why do you think teens and children feel better by ridiculing others?
Again, I have no idea. As I said above, perhaps it makes them feel in control of someone/something.

If you are a child/teen have you ever went to a discipline teacher at your school and tell them your problem but they haven't done anything about it?
Ok, firs that should read 'If you are a child/teen have you ever gone to a discipline teacher at your school and told them your problem but they haven't done anything about it?' Sorry, the grammar was really bugging me)
But to answer the question no, not that I can think of.

If you are an adult and have children have they had similar problems of teachers not doing anything about there bullying case?
It's 'their' not 'there' *twitch*
I'm an adult, but I have no kids.

If you are an adult without children are you bullied at your workplace or college?
Nope, the people in my college are surprisingly nice(and teachers I hate don't count since they aren't actually bullying me)

What are some ideas you may have to decrease the number of suicides/ help the bullying problem? Have you ever witnessed someone being bullied and stood there and just watched?
I've never seen anyone been bullied. As odd as it sounds, despite how everyone makes it sound like a massive problem, I never say any of it happening at my schools. Perhaps I was just blind to it I dunno.

Have you witnessed someone being bullied and helped them?
Again no, since I've never seen it happen.

As a child have you ever been scared to go to school because of bullies?
No.

Do you know anyone who may have committed suicide due to bullying?
Not really. I say this because, while I never met him, he was someone my best friend knew and I met his sister in high school.

Were you a bully?
Not that I can recall.

How did you deal with bullying?
I don't know if it would really be counted as bullying but, when I was in grade 4/5 there was a boy who seemed to enjoy pushing my and my friend's buttons. I say I'm not sure because he never physically hurt me and never insulted me, he just rubbed me the wrong way and he knew it.
I mainly ignored him.I retaliated once by hitting him in the nose(with my wimpy grade 5 girl punch I might add) and he never bothered me after that. And I didn't get in trouble either, probably because he was to embarrassed to to tell the teacher that he'd been hit by a girl(I think any grade 4/5 boy would have at that age). And the fact that in grade 5/6 he moved away also helped to curb the issue. But it was never sever enough to warrant going to a teacher, I think.
There have been some who push my buttons hoping for a reaction. I don't know what they expect, perhaps me to break down crying since I am a very quiet and shy person. They never expect the fact that I snap back and rip them a new one. And after I flip on them and tell them to piss off and stop it, they do.
I did that on a boy who was teasing me about my drawings in grade 9. And it startled him and he left me alone.

And just a little note, if I were to meet him again now, I wouldn't hold his past against him(if he even remembers it). We were 4th graders being stupid and there was no harm done. Whether he remembers it or not, I suppose you could say I've forgiven him.
I guess people think that quiet girls can't/don't freak out on you like that.
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What do you think causes children to act this way?

I think that people bully because they're insecure of themselves, depressed or have an inferiority complex of some sort. If a child isn't loved by his/her parents or come from a family with a history of domestic violence, abuse, poor economics or he/she have parents that drink a lot, they may bully others that are different because it lets them take their anger out on someone else. Some may need to feel that they are in control of the situation, if they don't have control of their every day life.

Why do you think teens and children feel better by ridiculing others?

As stated above, it lets them get rid of their frustration and/or their feelings against themselves or others.

If you are a child/teen have you ever went to a discipline teacher at your school and tell them your problem but they haven't done anything about it?

I was bullied a lot, yes. I didn't talk to anyone about it, but my parents did talk to the school's counselor about it. It didn't help at all. When I started my current school, however, I was sent to a counselor/psychologist, and I was finally able to get help. It only took 9 years for someone to take action, and I'm not satisfied with the time it took.

If you are an adult and have children have they had similar problems of teachers not doing anything about there bullying case?

I'ma pass on this one.

If you are an adult without children are you bullied at your workplace or college?

I'ma pass on this one too.

What are some ideas you may have to decrease the number of suicides/ help the bullying problem? Have you ever witnessed someone being bullied and stood there and just watched?

I haven't witnessed bullying, because I was mostly the target, and my school's pretty small. But to stop suicides and such, teachers should focus on the students, teach them about bullying and such, and be supportive if they see that a student isn't doing well. The schools should put more time and money into actually trying to stop bullying instead of talking about it.

Have you witnessed someone being bullied and helped them?

As I said, I haven't witnessed any bullying.

As a child have you ever been scared to go to school because of bullies?

Yes, I was. Some days I just couldn't bring myself to get out of bed, so I faked illness to get awat from school. Some days were worse than others, and I actually had a breakdown once when I was actually going. I was half way there and just couldn't hold it in, so I simply started crying, turned around and went home, curled up in bed and slept/cried for the rest of the day.

Do you know anyone who may have committed suicide due to bullying?

I haven't by I myself was about to, and would have, if I hadn't met my current BF.

Were you a bully?

Can't say I was, no. I was afraid of most people back then.

How did you deal with bullying?

I shut it in and tried to ignore it. I didn't harm myself or anything, I just shut it in and didn't think about it.
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