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Re: Bullying (Sensitive Material)

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Children bully to feel powerful due to an imbalance of power in their lives. Maybe a parent is abusive, or maybe they were bullied, but they're doing it to regain what they lost. Control. Though they may not be thinking of it that way. And they may not have actually lost any control, but they perceive that they have lost some control. You see it everyday except it isn't called bullying because usually it's very short term. It's the same as a woman with an abusive boyfriend, except to a less extreme measure.

Which there children that commit suicide, part of me feels bad. Part of me can't help but think that I was bullied for years too, yet I sucked it up realizing that school ends. People either grow up or fail at life. One of the two. I still feel bad for those children, but at the same time I feel like they're idiots, at least the ones who never sought help like counseling outside of the school system, those who never told their parents, those who never told anyone. Though, at the same time, teachers do miss most if not all of the bullying. So there is no good answer.
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Yokuutsu wrote:Children bully to feel powerful due to an imbalance of power in their lives. Maybe a parent is abusive, or maybe they were bullied, but they're doing it to regain what they lost. Control. Though they may not be thinking of it that way. And they may not have actually lost any control, but they perceive that they have lost some control. You see it everyday except it isn't called bullying because usually it's very short term. It's the same as a woman with an abusive boyfriend, except to a less extreme measure.
This is actually not entirely true, psychologists have found more recently. It can be, but not always. Sometimes it's just the thrill of feeling powerful over another person, or because they enjoy the inclusionary attitude provided by like-minded peers. Even kids and teens from perfectly stable, loving households can act out because they're influenced by their own personality or the people they surround themselves with.

It continues like this, in a lot of cases, because no one puts a stop to it. Because peers egg on bad behavior rather than sticking up for the bullied. A lot of bullying today is encouraged by society's approach to parenting styles and punishment and our attitudes about accountability.
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What do you think causes children to act this way? It's definitely all about power, no matter the reason behind it. Probably not a conscious realization, in most cases, but having power over another person, either with your words or with a paycheck... most people like that, even if they don't admit it.

Why do you think teens and children feel better by ridiculing others? Mmm, it probably differs from case to case. Feeling powerful, like I said, and maybe because they feel inadequate in other parts of their life?

If you are a child/teen have you ever went to a discipline teacher at your school and tell them your problem but they haven't done anything about it? When I was bullied as a child, I did. I even went to my parents about it. My teacher had no control over her class, and the rest of them couldn't do much. My parents didn't believe me (at least at first).

What are some ideas you may have to decrease the number of suicides/help the bullying problem? Have you ever witnessed someone being bullied and stood there and just watched? A therapist might help... a teacher that's honestly there for the kids. Though that still means the students have to go to the therapist, so I'm not sure how well that would work. I hesitate to say stricter rules or anything like that, because the bullies would just find places where the teachers aren't to bully kids.

If someone is being bullied I do something about it. Period. No one should go through what I had to.

Have you witnessed someone being bullied and helped them? I think I have, but I can't recall the incident off the top of my head.

As a child have you ever been scared to go to school because of bullies? Yes.

Do you know anyone who may have committed suicide due to bullying? No, thankfully.

Were you a bully? Definitely not.

How did you deal with bullying? When it was me? I cried a lot in class, and eventually just... put up with it. Today? Not very well, probably XD I think I'd probably shout and get into an argument with any bully I come across.
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What do you think causes children to act this way?
The kid has trouble at home or is neglected.

Why do you think teens and children feel better by ridiculing others?
I don't know why other teens feel better by hurting others.

If you are a child/teen have you ever went to a discipline teacher at your school and tell them your problem but they haven't done anything about it?
I never told a teacher or adult about my problems.

What are some ideas you may have to decrease the number of suicides/ help the bullying problem? Have you ever witnessed someone being bullied and stood there and just watched?
One way I can think to stop bullying is to stand up to the bully. No I have never witnessed someone being bullied and have done nothing about it.

Have you witnessed someone being bullied and helped them?
Yes. I also stopped a rumor about a person from spreading around.

As a child have you ever been scared to go to school because of bullies?
Yes. I thought I trusted the person who once was my friend but became a bully to me. She would hit, kick and humiliate people. Not just me.

Do you know anyone who may have committed suicide due to bullying?
Does a person I saw on a tv count?

Were you a bully?
Nope and will never be.

How did you deal with bullying?
I live with it.
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[*]What do you think causes children to act this way? Some may be bullied, others want power. Others still are abused at home. None of these reasons are an excuse though.
[*]Why do you think teens and children feel better by ridiculing others? See above.
[*]If you are a child/teen have you ever went to a discipline teacher at your school and tell them your problem but they haven't done anything about it? I've had this happen to me multiple times. I've even had teachers encourage it...My vice principal did nothing when a girl admitted to his face that she threatened to rape me.
[*]If you are an adult and have children have they had similar problems of teachers not doing anything about there bullying case? I would talk to the teacher(s) myself. Hell hath no fury like a mother's scorn.
[*]If you are an adult without children are you bullied at your workplace or college? I'm 18...
[*]What are some ideas you may have to decrease the number of suicides/ help the bullying problem? Have you ever witnessed someone being bullied and stood there and just watched? No, I've actually taken the bully away from someone once. I got no thanks for it, only scars.
[*] Have you witnessed someone being bullied and helped them? See above.
[*]As a child have you ever been scared to go to school because of bullies? Yes, I had to go to court because I'd skip school. I also used to fake sickness just to go home.
[*]Do you know anyone who may have committed suicide due to bullying? No.
[*]Were you a bully? Never
[*]How did you deal with bullying? I attempted suicide 3 times. I almost succeeded each time.
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-What do you think causes children to act this way? I...don't have much of a clue. But sometimes, rude remarks slip out of one's mouth, and then they can either chose to apoligize in some way or ignore/keep antagonizing them. Some people don't want to feel humiliated, so they'll go for the latter. Or, maybe bullies just feel as if they can speak their mind freely...too freely. Oh! And sometimes, peer pressure can do the trick. Like, if a popular person starts to target somebody, others will join in becuse they don't want to act like a social outcast.
-Why do you think teens and children feel better by ridiculing others? The one time I've consciously acted like a bully, it wasn't so I could feel better. So I can't say.
-If you are a child/teen have you ever went to a discipline teacher at your school and tell them your problem but they haven't done anything about it? Teachers, in my opinion, have very little power in the matter unless they chose to take drastic measures. Just "keeping an eye on them" really doesn't work, but major punishments will, even if they are a bit excessive. I've never really reported any of the bullyings that have happened to me (they were one-time things), so I can't really say much from personal experience.
-If you are an adult and have children have they had similar problems of teachers not doing anything about there bullying case? I have no children! I'm still a teenager~ ^^;
-If you are an adult without children are you bullied at your workplace or college? Ehh...I'm not an adult...
-What are some ideas you may have to decrease the number of suicides/ help the bullying problem? Have you ever witnessed someone being bullied and stood there and just watched? I have no ideas in order to help solve the problem. However, I would encourage teachers and staff to keep an extra eye out for any bullying behavior, and to squash it down even at the slightest hint of it. There are some times where it just seems like playful arguing, but it can eventually escalate. And I have watched someone get bullied and just stood there, just once. It was a special ed. kid, and he was being treated like a dog by a group of girls. I wanted to go over there, but my friends stopped me. I gave into their peer pressure, much to my later regret.
-Have you witnessed someone being bullied and helped them? No. Bullying, at least in my life, isn't too common around my school.
-As a child have you ever been scared to go to school because of bullies? Nope~
-Do you know anyone who may have committed suicide due to bullying? Nope~
Were you a bully? Once. It was way back in kindergarten, and I honestly cannot for the sake of me remember why I did it. It was a one-time thing though, thank goodness.
-How did you deal with bullying? I just try and move on and forget.
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My old school was a very small one. All the boys in my class were blockheads (except one) and all the girls (except a few) were just mean, and i had two besties. I never noticed that I was being bullied CONSTANTLY and it made me start to say things I didn't mean! Honestly, i never want to go back. One of my besties broke my heart and the other one was just a follower and so she just went right along with it.
So Johns Hopkins had their eye on me for a long time and eventually i got into this really cool advanced math and science program. Now, i am sorounded by friends in my new school and some of them are even boys!
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so I want to raise more awareness of bullying. Did you know that suicide is the second leading cause of death for people aged 10-24? And its because of bullying...
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Re: Bullying - what I didn't know

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You never noticed that you were being bullied?
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Not really. I noticed they were being mean, but since it happened constantly, i never noticed it. It was a regular thing.
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Mod note: Since we already had a topic on bullying, I've combined the two threads.
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